Andrew – Is a 5 years old twin. Has trouble respecting personal space/boundaries and has anger issues.
Andrew was referred from the Montessori school he has been attending for the past several years.

He was having issues with anger and frustration towards children and his teachers. The only way to deal with his emotions was to scream, hit and misbehave in the classroom. He was also showing the same issues at home with his twin brother Jacob. Mom and Dad are full time working
professionals and are getting calls everyday from school in regards to his behavior.

It is important to know facts of Mom’s pregnancy and delivery experience. I strongly believe many things happen with twins in utero that can affect them after delivery. Mom experienced complications during pregnancy and delivery. After the first year, Andrew’s anger and lack of appropriate expression began to show up. With twins, this is always a discussion when parents can no longer stop any of the behaviors. The most important question was “Did Andrew think his actions were appropriate and did he want to continue to act this way.”

In my work with children I build trust through many mediums. The best one that fits their personality is the one I use. This can be drawing, writing , playing make believe, or even games. If the child can tell you their story through connections then they can build trust. Trust is vital to getting to the root of their problems and forming a working plan of action. Using coaching and mindfulness work, I have been able to bring a better understanding of their unacceptable behavior and teach them and their parents (and their teacher) tools essential to changing the behaviour at school and at home.

Andrew’s visits consisted of teaching him to find calmness in his body and mind. We created a special action or word to remind him and his parents when his trigger hits. Andrew also learned to sleep calmly which has also been helpful in lessening his outbursts. After a bit of time, Andrew and his brother began to bond more.
Andrew is now 10 years old. His parents say he is great and doing well in school and at home and he continues to use the tools I taught him.
Teaching a child to change what they don’t like and to bring happiness is a gift. That’s why it is so important for others to learn these skills. This can be your story too!

William – 13 years old. Has academic issues due to ADD. This results in a disrespect for discipline from authority figures.

William was referred by an eye practitioner who works with children; specifically those who have ADD and ADHD. William has also been referred to a psychiatrist. William was frustrated and he could not concentrate in class. He hated every class except for soccer. It is also worth noting that William’s brother is successful in both school and sports.

Soccer was the first step to trust. He was a true boy! He loves hanging out with friends and hated reading due to his inability to concentrate. One other factor I took into consideration was that William found his reading material boring. The first thing we needed to tackle was
his concentration levels in class. Homework was hard as well so we set up studying guidelines. The goal here is to find success AND structure, something that happens in soccer but not in the classroom. He loves participating in other sports such as baseball, basketball and golf. If it involves a ball, he was watching or playing it.

Sports was the key. It was embarrassing for him because his friends were succeeding in both school and sports. William’s goal was to succeed no matter what. The meds helped him in the beginning, but other techniques of confidence building were required. Learning
how to control his distractions in class, we began applying his love of sports to a summer reading challenge. William worked hard while we continued to address each issue.
Everything overlaps. Structure was in place for his sports and homework. Parents, especially mom, wanted him to succeed. He went on to compete in soccer tournaments, and got into a great college. He was able to apply his tools and managed college better than most, especially freshman year. He will graduate this year and whatever he decides to be, he will be successful.

I learned a lot about sports while helping William. During office visits we always celebrated the wins, either in class or on the field. He continues to apply his tools when he struggles to focus and William has become a friend to many. His confidence levels are through the roof and he is happy right where he is at in life!

William is just one of the many children I watch become less dependent on meds and more focused on learned skills.
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CAUTION — Possible triggers in regards to eating disorders

Autumn – 16 year old girl. Has had bulimia and body dysmorphia. This results in body image issues and unhealthy mental cycles.

Autumn is a representee of many young women. Her story of confidence and lack of self worth is what many 16 year olds are struggling with today. It is worth noting that I am seeing younger and younger girls come in with the same issues. Autumn was beautiful and a “Perfect” size 3 but You would never know it because she always wore sweats. Her problem was lack of self confidence and wanting to be thin like
her friends. She was also a dancer but is bigger boned than her other dancer friends. She had been in an accident and been injured badly. As a result of her injuries, Autumn spent a decent amount of time in rehab. Her goal was to be able to dance again. At home, her mom only cooked healthy meals. Autumn was so overpowered by lack of self confidence
she began to make herself throw up after each meal. (bulimia.) It was a common practice among her friends, so of course she had to follow suit.

She was ashamed and wanted to stop. When mom found out, she came to me. Right away I saw a beautiful strong girl who had recovered from a serious accident , was a smart student and has a family that loves her. The other thing I could see in Autumn was her desire to help others. Autumn wanted to change her confidence level, stop weighing herself
and stop comparing herself to others. Her desire was deeply rooted in self- acceptance and wanting to help others.
We worked a lot on the image in her mind of how she perceived herself. New routines for Autumn looked like getting rid of the scale and the baggy clothes.She began to understand her beauty from within and made it more important than the image in the mirror; also
learning that she can be accepting of both.

Autumn worked hard with me through journaling and in-person conversations. These tools allowed the changing level of self-acceptance. She accomplished so much after our time together and was accepted into her college of choice and is also dating her wonderfully supportive boyfriend that she met at a service project.
Autumn is just one of many young women in our country who deal with low self-esteem and a negative body image. The opportunity to help her and many more through my after school program “ChatterGirls” is a great opportunity that can be your journey as a pediatric life coach

Autumn – 16 year old girl. Has eating issues and body dysmorphia. This results in body image issues and unhealthy mental cycles.